5 Traits that Bag a Boyfriend

From one single gal to the next, I'm passing on some friendly advice as found in an article online. So how does one bag a boyfriend? Let's find out, shall we...

1. You're just that into yourself
   Self-confidence!!! Get some, or guys are going to pass. Girls with low self-esteem come across as needy. And needy girls don't get the guy. How do you show that you're that girl? Don't promote yourself, but rather show your interest and curiosity in the guy.
2. You've got a burning passion...and not just for him
   Men are attracted to women with clear interests and lots of enthusiasm. Drop subtle hints on your latest adventure and project. The guy won't feel like he's completely responsible for your happiness, and he'll be more inclined to want to be part of your multifaceted life.
3. You know how to compromise
   This is one of the most important skills if you're looking for a long term relationship. Being flexible is a huge turn-on, it means less conflict. Prove you know how to compromise early on by letting him weigh in on the restaurant choice or not acting annoyed if he changes plans.
4. You dress for guys, not gals
   If you're not turning heads, it's because you're not dressing for the guys. Peasant tops and skinny jeans are all cute, but you might as well be wearing your flannel pajamas. Men want to see curves, so dress to accentuate. There is a fine line though, so don't cross it.
5. You're over your ex
   Before you get serious about starting a relationship with a new guy, make sure you're not hoping or trying for one with your old guy. No one wants to feel like their in an unwinnable competition; and if you're living in the past you won't truly be motivated to move on the the future and connect with new guys.

There you have it. 5 easy steps.

Now if only practicing were easier than preaching...

The Dos and Don'ts of Text Message Flirting

We live in a texting world. So let's see what the web says about says about texting and flirting.

• Do say text me when you give out your number.
• Don't text just saying "hi".
• Don't purposely send him a "mis-text."
  
• Do text him back within 24 hours.
• Do ask him out over text. Wha???
• Don't kid yourself. If his texts are only after 10pm he's lookin' for booty.
• Don't TUI (text under the influence).
  
• Do use the phone on certain occasions.
• Don't go overboard with the abbreviations and acronyms.
• Don't send a sexy message before you are in an exclusive relationship.
• Do learn how to throw him into the friend zone.
  
• Don't text your ex.
• Do send a thank-you text post date, but if it was a great fireworks kinda date call him the next day to thank him.

And there you have it!

Go forth and properly text-flirt.

5 Types of Women that Men Avoid

Oh dang! Am I one of these loonies? Coleman read the title of the article on my computer and said that it's easy. The kind of women that men avoid are the crazy, crazy, and more crazy.

As I'm on this pursuit of finding my Mr. Right, I stumble across articles that I think might be helpful. And well, to be quite honest I want to know if I'm one of the types of women that men avoid.

Eek! What if I am?

So let's find out these types, shall we...

The Flirty-Bird - Basically this gal is great! At first... then it becomes apparent that she suffers from low self-esteem and gets the bulk of her confidence from flirting. And she flirts with everyone! Her boss, random people, the guy's brother...everyone. The guy will probably realize that it's too hard to get her to give him the time needed to date.

The Commitment-Phile - Girls, note to self, don't start talking about your wedding and the future you're going to have with your dude until after a few dates. Ok, more like many months of dating. The quickest way to scare a guy off is to talk about your future together, or not together, either way it's all planned out.

The Cling-On - No, she's not a trekker. The guy is her everything in terms of a social life. Wanting to know where her guy is always, calls him numerous times a day, relying on him for her entertainment. Girls, you're gonna drain your guy of all his energy by being clingy.

The Party Girl - Can this gal have fun without alcohol? Or without being the social butterfly at every party? If your entire life is a party you may want to re-evaluate.

The Windbag - Basically, this one talks to much. About herself. Never about her date. Shut up for once and ask questions drawing him in. For Miss Chatty Cathy there is no such thing as a two sided conversation. Silence is golden...

So there you have it!

I would say if I had to categorize myself, I'm a minor case of cling-on (like, really minnute) and a silent (it's all planned out in my head) commitment-phile.

So, what would you say you are?

9 Signs You've Met "The One"

I'm a hopeless romantic. And unfortunately, I also think that every guy that I get close to is "the one". And, well, so far my record isn't that hot. What 0 and ??? I really need to change the way I think, look, feel, and rely more on God.

But in the meantime, let's see what eharmony.com says about how you know you've met "the one". 9 steps, eh? Hummm...

1. You're not chasing the relationship's potential - Relationships are full of obstacles. The way of thinking that once on problem is fixed everything will be hunky-dory is not true, because soon after something else will come up. If it's meant to be, there shouldn't be any chasing to make it right or work, it'll just be.
   
2. Who you are is good enough - You know you've met "the one" when that person loves you for you, for who you are. You don't have to try to impress "the one" because that person is already impressed by you for being you.
   
3. You manage conflict well - Arguments happen. It's natural. What's not natural is when they don't happen. That's when you should worry a bit. When you manage conflict well you communicate. Communication is huge in relationships of all kinds. Communication is healthy and it shows a level of respect, which in turn will make your relationship stronger in the long run.
   
4. The mundane is suddenly interesting - If this person is truly "the one", then every little thing about their life will interest you, work stories, childhood memories, even their hopes and dreams for the future.
   
5. There's minimal drama-or none at all - Drama does not equal fighting. But when you do argue you're both mature about it and admit when you're wrong or apologize when lines are crossed. But if one is trying to use high emotions and manipulate the other...watch out and be careful to commit.
   
6. You're friends and family see what you see - This just goes to show that your friends and family have you as their best interest. And they are good judges of character. They'll tell you if they think the person is not right for you, or on the flip side they'll sing his/her praises telling you how great the person is. This doesn't mean that they are always right, they may try to push you into a relationship that you just don't see happening. But if you're falling for someone that the people in your life want you to be with, then chances are it's the real deal.
   
7. You know how to make them happy - Ask yourself, "Do you know what it takes to make this person happy?" If there is a deep connection, then you probably know the other's needs and wants. It could be something as smalls as making what they want for dinner. But you also should know other things like how to relieve stress, or can you talk to him/her about their hopes and dreams for the future. Does your partner do the same for you?
   
8. You have the same life priorities - Compatibility is key when creating a deep and long, lasting connection. Having your priorities match up gives you a better chance of long-term happiness.
   
9. You respect the person deeply - Respect is key in any relationship. Without respect there is no way to create a secure foundation. But when you respect each other, there is a stronger chance at thriving. Trust multiples and communication deepens.

So there you have it. A list to help you figure out if you've found "the one". It definitely doesn't hurt to have an idea of the basics and develop them from there.

Now to just work on finding "the one"...