Before you let yourself fall any harder for your crush, evaluate the situation and pick a course of action. Do you want to keep your feelings a secret, forever concealing unanswered love/lust in hopes that he'll one day look at you, profess his undying devotion, and offer you a happily ever after proposition? (What's wrong with that?) Or do you want to remove yourself from the Friend Zone, changing the limbo status in hopes of at least finding out where you stand? As scary as that second scenario sounds, it's the one to choose. After all, you deserve to know if your feelings are shared. If not, you deserve to let go and move on.
Signs He May Be Into You
Before taking the plunge and confessing to your crush, you should probably assess your current relationship status for signs that he might be into you. Ask yourself the following:
- Do you regularly spend a lot of time together? (If so, that's promising!)
- Have you met his circle of friends? (If not, why not?)
- Does he make a point to make plans with you? (Or is he more of a last-minute/spontaneous kind of guy? If so, uh-oh!)
- What does his relationship past tell you about his ability or lack thereof to commit? (You do the math.)
- Do you discuss your current love lives? (If he's telling you about all the other girls he's dating, beware - possible player alert!)
Hope for the Best, Prepare for the Worst
Before you confess to your crush, you need to mentally and emotionally prepare yourself. Just as it's possible that he might be harboring romantic feelings for you, it's equally possible that he might not share the same affections. You need to be able to handle that news with dignity - at least until you're in the privacy of your own home.
You need to figure out the best way to confess to your crush. If you're not ready for a face-to-face conversation, try another real-time approach like calling him on the phone. Texting, emailing, IMing, or posting a message on his fave social networking site are all available options but not recommended. After all, his response could take hours, days, or weeks, depending on how he feels.
Once you've decided where and how you'll confess your crush, you need to figure out what you're going to say. Possible openers include…
"I have a confession. I've kind of been crushing on you for awhile. Is that crazy?'
"Remember the other night when we hung out? I kinda wanted to kiss you goodnight..."
"OK, here's the deal. I have this crush on you. Any chance you're crushing on me?"
Regardless of what or how you say it, you should make your confession as concise as possible, giving your crush plenty of time to adjust to the news and react. If he needs time alone to let the news sink in, give him space; don't pester him to respond before he's ready. And definitely don't call, email, or text your crush afterward to check up on him. You've done your part. Now it's up to him to make the next move.
If your crush returns your affections, congratulations! The two of you are now free to decide how you would like to move forward. If for some reason he doesn't share your romantic feelings, that's perfectly okay, too. By addressing the unknown, you've freed yourself from limbo and are now ready, willing, and able to get on with your life, including eventually meeting someone amazing who will love and adore you for the fabulous woman that you are.
What Comes Next
Chances are good that by confessing your feelings to your crush, your relationship will in some way change. Whether it makes you closer as platonic friends or lovers who fall head over heels for one another, or sends you off in separate directions, is unknown. What's most important is to face whatever truth presents itself, and to do what's best for you as a result. When faced with rejection, sometimes the best remedy -- at least initially - is to distance yourself from your crush until your heart heals. In the meantime, surround yourself with true-blue friends who can love and support you unconditionally.
Crush or no crush, remember this: If you were strong enough to confess your feelings, then you're definitely resilient enough to handle any other challenges and obstacles that come your way.
"I have a confession. I've kind of been crushing on you for awhile. Is that crazy?'
"Remember the other night when we hung out? I kinda wanted to kiss you goodnight..."
"OK, here's the deal. I have this crush on you. Any chance you're crushing on me?"
Regardless of what or how you say it, you should make your confession as concise as possible, giving your crush plenty of time to adjust to the news and react. If he needs time alone to let the news sink in, give him space; don't pester him to respond before he's ready. And definitely don't call, email, or text your crush afterward to check up on him. You've done your part. Now it's up to him to make the next move.
If your crush returns your affections, congratulations! The two of you are now free to decide how you would like to move forward. If for some reason he doesn't share your romantic feelings, that's perfectly okay, too. By addressing the unknown, you've freed yourself from limbo and are now ready, willing, and able to get on with your life, including eventually meeting someone amazing who will love and adore you for the fabulous woman that you are.
What Comes Next
Chances are good that by confessing your feelings to your crush, your relationship will in some way change. Whether it makes you closer as platonic friends or lovers who fall head over heels for one another, or sends you off in separate directions, is unknown. What's most important is to face whatever truth presents itself, and to do what's best for you as a result. When faced with rejection, sometimes the best remedy -- at least initially - is to distance yourself from your crush until your heart heals. In the meantime, surround yourself with true-blue friends who can love and support you unconditionally.
Crush or no crush, remember this: If you were strong enough to confess your feelings, then you're definitely resilient enough to handle any other challenges and obstacles that come your way.
Article from eharmony.com
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